Everyone should have a big sister like mine, if they could. If not, a really good life-long friend will probably work out all right as well. Just find somebody with a different perspective than yours, and I think you'll learn a little about it what it means to be human and filled with compassion, humor, and love of life, as I have and continue to from her. These things, I think we all too often take for granted.
I was lucky enough to get to know my Big Sister beyond the silly adolescence and childhood scramblings and vying for attention from Mom, Dad, other family and friends. She landed back home several months following her College Graduation. I had taken up fort there, in our childhood home, after Mom headed for the East coast to live with her special someone else.
Mom was generous enough to set us up with cheap rent (usually no rent), which immensely helped me along in conquering the strife's of American adolescence and challenges of higher Ed, without having to subsist merely on the jobs I slaved at through the years of school.
Some years ago, today... perhaps, as fine a morning as it is here in JP, I?ll bet not as cold, she was brought into the light of day. Unbeknownst to her, years of angst and hell and torment called little brother were soon to follow. I think she got a tip off about the troubles. It seems she must have begun preparation for all the fine moments of torment and trickery she would fell on me over the years that followed. All of which were bested by her sheer good nature and maturity, years after that, when for some reason she chose to live with me, rather than some place on her own where she could be free of direct family interference.
Somehow these things didn't frighten her too much and she came back. And we both got to know each other and grow up a little bit more, together, as brother and sister, friend and family. I think that all too often families grow apart, and fail to really get to know one another before they do. We didn't, and while we don't talk every week, we do talk at least every month, and it's always good to hear her voice.
Well, after about 4 years of living together, minus a semester apart when I lived in Austin, with pipe dreams of becoming an Engineer, I moved away up here to the East Coast. Not too far from Mom and Mike, her wonderful special someone else that we have all grown to love as part of our family as well.
Since, today's her birthday and I recently started this web log (blog) I figured I'd send this to all my friends and family, so, they could think some good thoughts about their families and friends for a few moments and so that Jen's birthday, for a few moments, could bring everybody together. Please feel free to wish her a happy birthday here. Or e-mail this to your friends and family using the "email this entry to..." option.
Many of you may have never met Jen, nor perhaps will you. But for those of you, who do know her, write something special here about her. I know some of you have sent e-cards and real cards and such, but take a minute and make a comment here. I'd like to know I'm not the only one out there that loves his big sister (besides the fam of course). For those of you who don't know her, here's a quick biased bio.
After graduating Texas A&M in 1993 she moved to SA to work for a renown Orthopedic surgeon who invented the Titanium Rib and she organized his Titanium rib project and his life for a few years. While doing this full-time job, she managed to take more classes at our local university, further preparing her for applying to Medical School.
In between the job, studying, being a big sister, and applying for med school, she managed to stay really active in all types of dangerous (as Mom says) sports. And, she managed to frequently visit our then ailing and wonderful Grandmothers. They both have passed and my sister gave the best damn eulogy for one of the toughest, kindest ladies of our time, my Grandma Johnson as we called her.
A few months ago, she scared the shit out of us all, when she happened upon an invisible cliff, while riding in a mountain bike race. She broke her back and fractured a rib (or two) and managed to get back to school within a few weeks. She's the toughest and most generous people I know and am proud and humbled to have her as my big sister.
Even though she's facing more surgery (she's had other accidents in the past) she's still in school, and ever the optimist about life and its possibilities. Jen, if everybody could live life as you have, they would have lived many lives. Happy Birthday!! wherever you are, my dear sister. I know you are probably working a rotation today and saving someone's life, and I hope everybody gets an opportunity to share with you their thoughts on your impact in their life.

Wayne, what a wonderful thing to do for your sister. I know that she really enjoyed and appreciated it. Jen, as you pointed out, is a beautiful and unique creature and she will become an outstanding physician because of, among many other fine qualities, her generosity of spirit. I happen to know that her professors feel the same way that I do. Her love of life and enthusiasm will carry her far. I wish I could be as buoyant to life's tempests as she. I hope I get to meet you someday, you clearly share many of her qualities.
Wayne:
You said some nice things about your sister but (someone special to refer to Michael was not so good). He is my husband and your stepfather. You make it sound like he is just a boyfriend.
I'm sure Michael's feelings were hurt. I know you didn't mean it the way it sounded but it came across different to me.
Your websit is great. However, you are too young to be so serious all the time. We want to see you have more fun and not worry so much about everything.
I love you! Mom
Well, I didn't mean anything harmful by it, as I think...
"Not too far from Mom and Mike, her wonderful special someone else that we have all grown to love as part of our family as well." ,speaks well to.
I know he's your husband and my stepfather and I love you both. I guess my writing style leaves something to be desired. By special someone I was likening him to me as a special someone and hinting that at the time, I needed to grow up.
Hopefully my writing will improve over time, which is partly why I have this site. Mike I love you man, and I think you know that.
Don't worry, Mom, as I'm sure you'll see over time, I'm not serious all the time. But as I see it there is not enough seriousness in the world right now. I see too many taking their lives and life for granted, and it troubles me.
This is one of the many things we can discuss right here.
Wayne and Jen:
You are BOTH very special and Unique young people who are immensely interesting and provide joy and meaning to the lives of all those whom you touch.
Speaking as a totally unbiased and objective party, of course!
I, also, certainly hope that you enjoyed a GREAT
Birthday, Jen! We had planned to come to SA last week, was packed and ready to go, unfortunately the icy highways prevented our trip. We will see you soon, though!
Love and Happy Spring to all.
Frances
Frances is actually quite biased, she's my wonderful aunt, however we love the kind words. Thanks Frances.